Tuesday, 21 July 2015

How to spot a good friend.

This week we held the fifth session of our Inner Healing Seminar we spoke about friendships. One of the gifts we have as women is to be sensitive and nurturing of others, which gives us the ability to be excellent friends. 

However, we find that women who have been hurt in the past find it hard to reach out to others and become friends with them. Well, a great way of healing and overcoming the past is going against these tendency. Forget about your own flaws and make yourself vulnerable and available as a friend to someone else.  It’s an act of faith that will break down barriers.

Here are 6 basic points you should consider when choosing a friend (and how YOU should behave as a friend):

She encourages you to be positive

She has good morals and 
inspires you to be a good person

She is happy with herself so 
she doesn’t depend too much on you

She doesn’t try to manipulate 
or force you to please her

She appreciates your talents and ideas

She is dependable and trustworthy

To conclude, we all asked ourselves these vital questions:

  • Have I allowed myself to become stuck in unhealthy friendships?
  • Do I have the courage to distance myself from relationships that aren’t good for me?
  • Am I failing as a friend in any of these areas?
  • What can I do to change myself to be a better friend?
  • Do I drain the energy from my friends, or do I add to them?
  • Am I an inspiration to my friends?

1 comment:

  1. Thank you so much for sharing this message.

    I’ve been in this unhealthy friendship before I came at the church. As a result, it was literally unhealthy. It took time for me to be in friendship again as I developed traumas. I thanks God because He change the way I think. He gave me strength and wisdom how to let go that unhealthy friendship.

    From: Myrna Cantos - UCKG HK